Sunday, January 26, 2014

Stone Forest Hospital

January 21 to January 24th.
First of all, sorry this us really long post... It was a busy week!

Last week I began the first of my six week (one week a month) commitment to Kunming Medical University.  Long and exciting story short, they are starting their FIRST speech therapy undergraduate program in August of this year and asked me to consult with them during their preparation for the fall.  Speech Pathology has not completely hit chn yet.  Special education services are also in the beginning stages, they are available but very sparse and really only available in the bigger cities.  Children with special needs (physical or cognitive) do not go to school, leaving them with little opportunity educationally, socially and vocationally.  It is exciting that this field is emerging here because their are so many kids in need of these services.  Basically they asked me to help with three main things.  One is that I go to an affiliate hospital about 1.5 hours outside of Kunming in Stone Forest township to train therapists working with children with special needs in the rehab department of the hospital.  Second, they asked that I consult with them about the speech pathology program in general.  Thirdly, they asked that I present at a workshop in March.  This is all a big stretch for me professionally but I'm excited!  It gives me the opportunity to not only give professional knowledge, but more importantly to model the idea that people of all abilities are made in His image and should be treated as such.  

Last week I began the first goal, training staff in Stone Forest.  The week started out a little rough... there was a miscommunication about where to meet me so the driver never found me and I ended up taking the train and arriving late.  That was fine though and the rest of week went well.  From as best as I can understand, the gvmt gave this hosptial funding to take six children with special needs and treat them for six months.  If at the end of six months, those children have made progress, they will begin talking about continuing therapy with more children.  This puts some stress on myself and the staff.  In Chn there doesn't seem to be screening tools for speech and language acquisition.  This means that children with mild to moderate delays are not being identified.  All of the children that I have seen are children that are severly delayed.  This is a difficult place to be because they are children, that given the severity of their disability and the lack of previous intervention, will most likely be slow to make progress.  I believe that this should not exclude them from services.  For one thing, even slow progess is progress and for another thing, I feel that their parents can benefit from both the advise and moral support of the therapists.  The question is, do the holders of the purse strings feel that way?  

There were two speech pathologists that I trained as well as one of the coordinators who translated for me.  This week was probably the most cultural immersion that I've had so far because although I am working with local staff all of the time, the local staff with my oprganozation is more used to working with foreigners and I'm in an area that has some western food etc.  This was not true during my week at the hospital.  It is a pretty remote area and judging from the stares of everyone and the shouts of "foreigner" coming from people, there are not a lot of foreigners there.  Cultural differences in communication styles prove a challenge when consulting cross culturally.  It is very difficult to gage when a Chns person doesn't understand what you're saying.  Cultural differences typically mean that they won't tell you that they didn't understand or that they don't agree.  This is difficult and can be frustrating because you don't know that you need to clarify or find new ways to communicate information.  Overall, there were so many cultural lessons.  For one, I have read that here the responsibility to effectively communicate things such as scheduling details is the responsibility of the listener.  In other words, if I want to know what is going on, I should ask.  Western culture is the opposite, the person with the information is responsible for communicating that information to the listener.  My question is how am I supposed to know to ask about something that I don't know about?  It doesn't make any sense to me!  I am working on toning down my high strung Americaness but it's not easy!  Throughout the week I continuously pr@yed for peace (not knowing what's happening gives me a lot of anxiety, I'm a planner) and wisdom on how to communicate most effectively with staff and parents.  Another big communication difference is the level of directness. I like to have direct conversations with people, it's efficient and effective.  Not here... Instead there is a tendency to beat around the bush and take days (maybe weeks) to say what a typical westerner would have said in minutes.  Typically my frustration is that I want the local staff to be more direct with me so that I know what their expectation is of me.  This week I saw how easy it is for my communication to be misunderstood.  I know that in Chn you have to be polite and careful not to offend so I am careful, I eat food that makes me want to gag and always tell people that I'm comfortable, happy, warm etc regardless of if it's true.  I made a comment right before lunch about being hungry one afternoon.  I had eaten something small for breakfast and was not at all complaining, more just making conversation.  I guess the translator took my comment to mean that I didn't have any food and don't like the Chinese breakfast.  I realized that had I (a westerner) been unhappy with the food, I would have said so.  If she (an eastern thinker) had been in my situation and needed food, she may have made a "beat around the bush" comment to communicate that.  It's so complicated sometimes, I have to put myself into someone else's head and then talk.  My little comment resulted in this sweet women going to the store and buying me two loaves of bread, jelly and milk.  Again, I'm blessed by peoples kindness!  My first night eating by myself in the cafeteria was awkward.  I went in and stood in line with the masses, when it was my turn, about three people pushed past me in line. One of the staff members was very sweet to me and took the time to help me get food, I'm always thankful when there is someone who treats me kindly.  The next time I write a resume, I am going to put "sideshow actress in the circus" as one of my experiences because that's how I feel sometimes.  While I was eating, I looked up and there were at least twenty pairs of eyes on me.  I'm sooooo glad that I've been using chopsticks since I was three!  I'm giving all the rest of you foreigners a good name!  

Another Chn moment came when I was asked to give a presentation to the hospital staff about American healthcare (not really what I was expecting), give an overview of speech pathology as a field to the therapy department and give a T.V. Interview.  This is all in one week and on top of evaluating kids and training staff (I was soooo tired after this week and feel that I've earned my Chinese New Year break!).  I hesitantly gave a broad overview of healthcare to the hospital staff and made it clear that I'm not an expert on the subject.  Sometimes I'm asked to do things that are a stretch and I try to be very careful not to misrepresent my experience and talk about things that I'm not qualified to talk about.  I declined the T.V. Interview, that was too terrifying!  I really enjoyed presenting on speech pathology to the therapy staff, they seem to be a great group of people. 

This experience showed me once again how complicated my field is.  There were six kids and I had similar recommendations for two of them but very different recommendations for the other four.  Speech and language skills are so connected to the brain which is a complicated thing.  Some of these kids look similar to someone not closely analyzing their cognitive abilty, but are actually very different.  

What I LOVED about this experience is that it allowed me to do EXACTLY what I felt I should be doing during my time here... training local staff.  Chn has changed soooo much and while there may have been a time when foreign agencies needed to have a greater involvement in areas of development, we need to be very careful to not continue a model that may not be appropriate anymore.  I feel that in this situation, I need to be a supportive role here and not the primary therapy provider.  In order to make widespread progress towards greater opportunities for people with disabilities, the general public must begin to advocate, not only the foreigners.  

In thinking about training staff, I'm reminded of an African saying that I read in a book, "If you want to go fast, go alone.  If you want to go far, go together."  I think that saying justifies community development programs that are committed to working with local community members.  There are times when it feels like it would be easier to do things on your own... This isn't saying that you don't trust or respect the local staff, it's just less complicated to do things yourself than it is to put your knowledge into words that need to be translated into another language. However, I may go fast on my own, but I won't go far.  To go far, the local community members need to buy into whatever community development program is being built.   But this is good because I believe that we are all blessed by the differences in each other.  It gives us respect for people who think differently and it makes as see that we have a creative creator.  We are definitely not a cookie cutter creation, we are handmade by one who thinks outside of the box and nothing lets us see His creativity like working cross culturally.  





The hospital.  There are about 300 patients.
I was asked to give a presentation to the Dr.'s and nurses.  I took this picture right after I finished.
One of the kids with his mom and two of the therapists.
The therapy team... I was really excited to wear a white coat!

Walmart: Chn Style!

It's true, I'm not living in total depravity over here...after all, I live within walking distance to TWO Walmarts.  These Walmarts have brought great comfort to me and I appreciate Walmart here in a way that I never have in the U.S.  If there was no Walmart (which after this month will be my life as I move to a different city in Chn) I would have to run around to various open markets and random stores to buy my goods.  It would take twice as long and require eight times as much language skills. The Walmart offers connivence and an odd sense of comfort as it reminds me of home (although I really don't shop at Walmart at home).  This all being said, don't be tricked into thinking that I waltz into Walmart and waltz out with Mac N Cheese.   The exterior is the Walmart of America, but the interior is the food preferences of Cha.  I wanted to take all of my readers at home on a trip through Walmart Chn.  

Shrimp and unidentified eggs.  

Duck head anyone? 

I'm not really sure what this is...it's dried meat I guess?  It's not in a cooler so I don't know. 

 Yum... bloody fish heads.

These are the times when I'm glad that I can't read Chns... what is that? 

It gives me great sorrow to tell you that these sweet frogs are not in the pet department... This is the meat department : (   Jump away, they're going to eat you!!!


For those that can't take the blood, there is plenty of dried meats 

I don't know what this is... the label says "laver' is that English?  What is "laver"?  Do I eat laver?

More Ramen noodles than you can try in a lifetime!  This is where I spend a lot of time... MSG is so good!

I had to reinforce some stereotypes right?  There is A LOT of rice.... these bags are the size of large bags of dog food at home.  

And my favorite... Oreo's!!! There are tons of flavors!  Bill and I had The Great Oreo Tasting Party while watching movies on Christmas this year.  I am disappointed to say that we both only liked the original flavor.  The other ones had a weird aftertaste.  

Circles of Friendship

As I was fundraising for this trip last year, I had a couple of thoughts that have been brought back to me recently.  One is the idea of Circles of Friendship.  Working in Special Education, I have talked to kids about their friendships.  One of the common ways to do this is by using the Cirlce of Friendship approach.  In this approach we have a diagram of cirlces where we ask the child to write their name in the middle.  We then ask them to move to the next circle and write the names of their family members and close friends, these are the people that they love the most.  The next circle is for aquantiances etc.  This activity continues and we talk to the child/teenager about relationships.  We do this for a sad reason... we live in a world with evil people who prey upon individuals with cognitive delays knowing that they can trick or abuse them.  They also know that if the individual has a communication delay, they may not be able to report physical and sexual abuse.  These kids/teenagers can be taken advantage of because they don't understand boundaries and we are attempting to educate them on who to trust, take care of, give their affection to.  One teenager that I worked with was being bullied at lunch.  A group of boys was telling him that if he was their friend, he would buy them snacks at lunch.  He bought them snacks and when we asked him where his money went, he explained that he was sharing with friends.  We knew that these boys were not his friends and that they were taking advantage of him.  Explaining the intricacies of who to trust, who to love and how to be a good friend is complicated.  When I was thinking about this concept of the circles of friendship, I felt like I agree with it as a method to teach children/teenagers how to be safe from abuse, but have we have gone astray by continueing to live in this diagram as Chrstan adults?



The first question that we should be asking is "whose name should be in the center?"  The next circle is reserved for our family, then our friends, then our co-workers, etc.  But where do we put the orphaned, the widow, the alien?  Chances are if we care for people moving from the inside out as the diagram indicates, we are exhausted and done by the time we get to the outer circle.   Maybe if we lived in a perfect world, this wouldn't be such a big deal because everyone would be in someones inner circle.  Unfortunately, we live in a broken world where that is not the case.  I just finished a book about sexual slavery in Cambodia.  The author explained that the victims of this evil industry are generally the desperatly poor and the orphaned.  They are people that aren't in the inner circle of many people, if they had advocates, the sex traffickers would most likely leave them alone.  There are thousands upon thousands that don't fall into the inner circles of anyone.... anyone but G0d.  

The Bible can't be clearer and can't say loudly enough that G0d cares for the needy (Proverbs 14:3, Deut. 10:17-18 etc.). It also can't be clearer that we are called to love who He loves (Proverbs 19:17, 1 John 4:7, Matthew 25:40 etc.).   In a book that I'm reading called "Pursuing Justice: The Call to Live and Die for Bigger Things,"  the author, Ken Wytsma talks about the connection between loving G0d and loving others.  He says, " If we care about the Kingdom, we work toward the same end as the King.  If we love someone, we love what that person loves.  GOd is absolutely clear about who and what He loves."  

As I've been reading through this book I've been asking myself how I can live a life that is more just, more loving and less selfish.   I feel like there are a couple of key steps.  The first is to take myself out of the center of the circle and put G0d there.   When I'm in the middle ugly things happen.  I live a life where I pursue my own agenda while desperatly trying to do something "good" so that I can sleep at night.  The result is that I exhaust myself by my good works while still having a heart that is in disarray.  My pet projects help me find momentary alleviation from guilt, but not peace.   I want G0d to give me eyes that see people the way that He sees them, a heart that aches for what His heart aches for and feet that travel where His feet travel.  To do this, He needs to be in the center.  Ken Wytsma says, "The way to do more justice is not simply to do more justice, it is to grow closer to the heart of God."   The other thought that I had is that I need to somehow rearrange my other circles.  This doesn't mean loving my family and friends less because I know that G0d has blessed me with them, but we are called to care for the "circleless."   

There are times when the sorrows of the world feel overwhelming.  There are so many people hurting, how can we fix such enormous issues when we feel so powerless?   That's when we turn to G0d.  We remember that this world is His creation and He goes before us and walks beside us on a fight that has been going on since the beginning of time.  We turn the sorrow over to G0d because it's too much for our human hearts to bear.  We put the people that we see living in heartwrenching situations into His hands because ours aren't strong enough.  We ask for wisdom on how to change what is our responsibility to change.  We ask for love that doesn't always come naturally to us.  We ask for endurance when we want to pack it up and go home.  We ask for forgiveness when we hate instead of love, are selfish instead of selfless, are judgemental instead of compassionate, are apathetic instead of energized and in doing all of these things we misrepresent our loving G0d is to the world.  And lastly, we cry out for G0d to help us reorganize our circles.  





Saturday, January 25, 2014

From Dog Meat Soup to Poodle Promenades in the Park... The Story of the Chns Dog

Just as in the U.S., various areas in Chn are known for their culinary delicacies.  Chicago is known for its deep dish pizza just as Beijing is known for Peking duck.  Pittsburgh is known for its primanti brothers sandwiches just as Sichuan is known for its spicy cuisine.  Well one of my childhood homes in Chn was known for its dog soup.  Dogs in Guiyang had it rough, they were by no means pets.  Guiyang was a poor city and the numerous stray dogs were the least of anyone's concern until dinner time came around and then they were a mans best friend.  As stated before, Chn has changed quite a bit and is at the same time, exactly the same... You may be thinking "that statement doesn't make sense." EXACTLY.   
One of the changes that I've recently taken great interest in is the civil rights movement of the Chns K9.  Something has happened over the past twenty years in the equality of dogs.  I walk down the street and I see dogs with their heads held high wearing clothes!  When I see dogs wearing clothes in the states, it's Paris Hilton type people dressing their dogs up for special occasions etc.  I will admit that our deceased dog Mia, was known to don a Steeler shirt during football season.  But dogs wearing clothes are the exception, not the rule.  Here in kunming, some of these dogs wear clothes on a daily basis as if it would be totally inappropriate to leave the house without a shirt and skirt on.  I can't help but wonder, when/how/why has this happened.  I want to interview the owners and ask what made them make the leap from putting a dog in their soup to dressing it up in tennis shoes and jeans.  If this was some sort of campaign, then I want to meet the orchestrator.  Perhaps we should put the Chns dog activist on the committee to bring peace to the Middle East or end world hunger....anything, they must have excellent powers of persuasion.  
Sometimes I resent these dogs.  After all we live in a world where children die of hunger and little Rover has a full belly and Michael Jordan shoes (everything else has been true, the Jordan shoes is an exaggeration).  But what's one little foreign girl to do, run all over town undressing dogs?  So instead, I ask you to rise up oh dogs of kunming, and use your power to join the rest of us in the fight against human rights violations worldwide!  But by all means, put on those split pant jeans, skirts, sweaters and shoes, put your hair up in a ponytail (I kid you not) and hang your purse around your little neck (also true), who says injustice can't be fought in style.  









P.s.  I have been chasing unsuspecting dogs around for a couple of weeks to take pictures.  It's made me wonder if I have a future in photojournalism... It's been exciting to run after dogs in the market and through the park with the camera on my cell phone!  Unfortunately there is little dog that wears tennis shoes, jeans and a sweatshirt that I have seen a couple of times but didn't have my camera out in time.  There was also one wearing a purse, but I was on a bike and taking a picture would have gotten me killed.  I hear from a reputable source, of a dog that wears eye shadow, but haven't come across it yet.  

Saturday, January 4, 2014

Dance Party in the Park!


I LOVE going to the park, which is basically a large concrete square with some very small walking trails on either side.  A lot goes on in this park.  Older men play cards, children roller blade and bike ride, and my favorite.... Everyone dances!  On any given weekend, you can find over ten groups of different dances.  Some are line dances that resemble step aerobics and some are the circle dances which seem to be popular in minority traditions.  

If any of you out there think that the concept of a flash mob is either western or new, you haven't seen what goes on in Chinese parks.  I am convinced that the Chinese have been flash mobbing since the Ming dynasty.   I have been scouting out the dance parties because one of my New Years goals is to join in.  You have to understand that while this seems like an easy goal, it's pretty intimidating.  My very presence in China brings about stares, cell phone pictures and the traditional point and scream "foreigner" from small children.  I can't even imagine the response when I jump into the crowd and start shaking what my momma gave me!   I guess I'll find out!

Today, I had the pleasure of watching how these epic dance parties begin.  A group of four ladies rolled up with a boom box and started dancing.  The area that they began in was virtually empty.  Within about ten minutes there were about twenty strangers dancing in a circle together and about forty so spectating.  I love the inhabition and the inclusiveness of these spontaneous events.  There were people from different minority groups, women, men and children of all ages.  One of the men was dancing in a business suit!  I feel like at home it would take a pretty strong drink to get most people to dance around with strangers and the gawking eyes of onlookers!  But that's Chna for you and one day I'll be flash mobbing with the best!!!


Friday, January 3, 2014

Bill's Visit : )


Bill and I will have a busy December for all of eternity...his birthday is December 15th and mine is the 28th.  Add in Christmas and New Years Eve and you have a crazy two weeks!  There will be years when this is a pain but this year it was a blessing.  Bill came to China and we were able to be together for both birthdays and Christmas, which was a tear saver for me!  Given my visa, I need to exit mainland China three times during my stay and Hong Kong got to be my first exit!  
For those of you who may not know, my family lived in Hong Kong for about a year and a half when I was about nine.  Hong Kong is my favorite city in the world so it was nice to get to show Bill around what used to be one of my homes.  What made Hong Kong all the sweeter was that I was coming from Kunming.  While I enjoy what I do here and love working with the people, Kunming isn't the most beautiful places on earth.  Yunnan province is known for its beauty and judging from my trip to the countryside at the beginning of my time here, I see why.  The mountains are amazing and the temperature leads to lush plant life.  However, Kunming itself gets me a little down.  It's a big city and you have a tough time finding nature which is what makes me miss the beauty and rolling hills of Pittsburgh.  Anyway, it was nice to show Bill, both my childhood home/favorite place ever and my current location.  

We had a great time in both places and were happy to get to spend time together after being apart for six weeks.  The weather didn't cooperate in either place which was frustrating, but we survived the torrential downpours of Hong Kong and the freezing temperatures of Kunming.  Kunming is generally pretty mild but we hit a bad week : (. The difficult thing about living here when there is cold weather is that there is no central heating in the buildings.  Some days it's so cold inside that I can see my breath.  That was what poor Bill got to experience.  It really can be depressing to NEVER warm up.  

Below are some pictures of our two weeks together...miss you already Bill : (



Lantau island ... This is where we used to live.  Love it!

Cartoon avenue of the stars in the park.

















We ate at Pizza Hut for my birthday.  It's totally different here because it's actually a pretty nice restaurant with a big menu.  I stuck with pizza since it's a treat that I don't get often.  I like that the sign says "let's pizza together"


Thanks Bill for a great holiday!